Make New Mistakes
When my daughter broke the hairband for her birthday dress, while
getting ready for her birthday… she was so taken back! I remember those eyes,
full of doubt and guilt, but waiting for a word of encouragement, someone who
will say its ok. I remember me being upset, she broke something I specially handcrafted
for her, about to shout… when my son casually walked in and stated “ It’s Okay Khushi, always remember…. Make new mistakes”. Then everything changed. Those
anxious eyes turned into a happy smile and I understood too that the most
important thing about being 3 for her was to have a Happy Birthday in its true sense!
These three small words which my son brought home from school one day,
changed my perspective and our life so much! They are so powerful, whether its
relationships, parenting or children. While we
are trying to achieve our dreams and goals, it's always so important to know that we are not perfect and will never be. I am pleased with my own self for knowing that new mistakes are necessary to learn and by making sure my mistakes are new, I remember the lessons learned! It also changed how I look at arguments and
misunderstandings between friends and our near and dear ones. I always tell
myself, if I can fumble, so can they! If I am a good person… so are they!
When I Look into my children’s eyes and tell them “It’s Okay, make new
mistakes!” I can see the immense pleasure they get when they are felt accepted
even with their faults! I not only want to give them the assurance they need
from a parent but a powerful lesson that one day when you grow up to explore the world
on your own, be accepting and encouraging and remember …
“ Everyone makes mistakes…. Even the people you love!!”
From all the lessons I keep learning in life,
this one came from the least expected source :)
Do share your memorable parenting moments! I love to read them...
So true Jeny. Thanks for sharing..
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ReplyDelete:) there is always a piece of learning with the kids .. beautiful piece of an usual day !
ReplyDeleteGood writing. In my experience I have always understood, that children bring a completely different perspective to our every day thinking and that perspective is simple yet effective and causes the least conflict. We just have to listen to them :)
ReplyDeleteLove it... totally agree about not reacting in a negative way because kids are not breaking things on purpose or making mess on purpose :). I break things and make mess too...!!
ReplyDeleteLovely story! What else can you expect from our outstanding HARSH....Your kids are just AWESOME...good parenting Jeny!
ReplyDeleteVery true!!!!!!
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